Is Urethral Play Painful?
When the thought of inserting things into the urethra is first brought to your attention, your initial reaction will probably be one of slight recoil. Surely putting things in there is going to be quite painful? I won’t lie, urethral play can be painful, but usually this is only if you are doing it incorrectly. By taking time and care, and following guidelines on how to use your urethral toys, you shouldn’t feel much pain, if any at all.
A Note on BDSM
Some people like pain. There’s nothing wrong with that. If you’re the kind of person who enjoys this, it’s important to pay even more attention to your body though. Most of the time when you feel pain, it’s the body’s natural way of telling you something is wrong. Until you know your limits, I’d recommend performing your urethral play in a pain-free way, so you can get used to the feelings and experience. Once you know what you are doing, you’ll be able to explore the painful part of play in a much safer way, and be able to tell if it’s pain you want to feel, or pain you need to pay attention to.
One of the most important aspects of urethral play is the size of your urethral toy. While sounds or penis plugs can come in many different lengths so that they can reach deeper into the body, for the most part you should be focusing on the diameter of the toy. Women do have a shorter urethral system than men though, so if you’re female, look for female toys, or shorter versions.
In general, the deeper a sound goes, the less comfortable it will be. It might not necessarily be painful, but in general it’s usually a good idea to start with shorter ones and move onto longer ones once you become more accustomed to the feelings.
When it comes to diameter, the thicker a toy is the more intense the feelings are going to be. It’s never recommended for beginners to use large diameter toys and even more experienced users should work up to them. The idea is to gradually stretch the urethra. Going too girthy too quickly won’t just stretch the skin, it will probably tear it. This is where much of the pain will probably come from. If you take your time and work up to larger toys, there shouldn’t usually be any problems.
While a lot of urethral toys will be completely smooth, some are not. These textured toys will help to produce different sensations as you insert and wear them. I’d recommend leaving these until you are experienced though, as the different textures can produce friction and maybe tearing, so it’s important that your urethra is sufficiently stretched and prepared for these.
Inserting Toys Comfortably
Another big factor in whether or not your urethral toys will be painful is how you insert them. Of paramount importance in this is lubrication. The urethra does produce some lubrication to protect itself from urinal bacteria, but this is nowhere near enough for insertion. You need a good quality lube before you go putting anything inside your urethra. Make sure that your lube is close to hand, in case you need to apply more mid-session.
When it comes to insertion, you need to be relaxed. Sometimes it might take quite a while to get the toy in. Trying to rush it will only cause more problems, and you should never force the toy in if it gets stuck. The toys should mostly slide in on their own, with very little pushing from you. If it does become a little stuck, you may need to apply more lube before continuing. While inserting, if the toy feels very tight and uncomfortable then this one is probably too large for you, so it’s usually a good idea to stop and try a smaller size. If a smaller toy still won’t go in, then your urethra may need a little stretching, so if you’re trying a sound then maybe try a penis plug instead.
When first learning to use toys, you shouldn’t be obsessing over depth. The main thing you are trying to accomplish is learning to put them in comfortably and safely. If you only get it a few inches in, there’s nothing wrong with that. You might be able to move a little deeper next time. Deeper penetration (towards the prostate or bladder) is only advised for advanced users who are used to how urethral play feels. You need to be completely comfortable with the sensations and feelings before you start trying to go further.
- It is worth bearing in mind that after play sessions, you may still feel sore. This is true even if you take your time and are comfortable during the session. Just like any other part of the body, you are stretching things and they will take time to heal. If it happens to you regularly, it might be a sign that you are being a bit too rough, and you should try to be a little gentler next time. If you are sore after a session, be sure to wait until the pain has completely cleared up before you have another session.
- Never insert random objects into your urethra! This includes toys with sharp edges, or ones that are especially thin. The urethra is an incredibly delicate area and damage to the pipes can cause you a lot of urinary problems.
- Only use sterile lube. The regular lube you use for sex may not be suitable, and you should check thoroughly before use. Using the wrong type of lube is likely to feel painful or like burning, and can also cause urinary tract infections.
- When lubricating your toys, be sure to cover more than just the tip, as some of the lube will be lost during insertion. It can be a good idea to lube a few inches at a time, to make sure everything is slippery while inserting it.
- Some toys can be inserted while the penis is erect, and some can only be inserted while flaccid. The same is true for removal. It’s important to know which type of toy you have before you start, so you don’t accidently try to remove it a way that is damaging to your body.
- Always thoroughly clean your toys before and after use. If they are not completely sterile, then you are very likely to suffer from urinary tract infections. Even if you’ve cleaned them after use, bacteria can still build up during storage, so cleaning them before use is advised.
- If at any point in a play session you feel sharp pains, prolonged pain, blood or discharge, cramps, fever, or any other unusual symptoms, seek medical help immediately.
While the thought of feeling pain in such a delicate area might put you off, try not to focus on it too much! As long as you take care and prepare well for your urethral play, you shouldn’t have any problems. This leaves you free to enjoy all the intense and pleasurable sensations your urethra can provide.